1/10/13

2013 Resolutions


If you’ve been following this blog, you know that I love a good resolution.  You can follow this link to read about the 2012 Great American Apparel Fast and this link to read a bit about what helped me keep my resolution throughout last year.  Because I wrote about these resolutions monthly here on the blog, I felt like I was being held accountable.  So thank you, dear reader, for holding me accountable!  I think I’ll do the same this year, though my resolutions are much less extreme.

2013 New Year’s Resolutions

Enjoy Life.  This should be simple, right?  I realized several months ago, when I was running through my day feeling frazzled and annoyed, that I needed an attitude adjustment.  The day looked like this: Get up and get the boys ready for school.  Drop boys and neighbor kids off at school.  Come home and make coffee.  Hang out with Sintayehu and get ready to go to the Y for a run.  Go to the Y.  Go to the store to pick up a few groceries.  Make lunch.  Put Sintayehu down for her nap.  Work.  Welcome boys home from school.  People, this is an average day for me. And it’s amazing!  I am fortunate to get to spend so much time with my kids AND do the work I love.  And yet, sometimes I approach such a day with a groan and a sense of just needing to check items off the list: Pack lunches, check. Y, check.  Groceries, check.  Work, check.  I want to refocus and live everyday as the gift that it is: Less marking things off the to-do list.  More joy.

2    Read two books per month.  One thing that has gotten pushed aside over the last few years is taking the time to sit down and read books.  I love periodicals – newspapers and magazines—and always manage to find time to read them.  However, I haven’t been reading as many books as I used to.  For goodness sake, I was an English major and an English teacher before I had kiddos.  I teach writing, for the love of Pete!  I love to read, I want to read, I need to read.  So, two books per month throughout all of 2013.  It sounds simple, but it seems like unless I make the time for it, this doesn’t happen.  I got several great books as Christmas gifts and will start with them.  (I'm already nearly finished with Grace Coddington's memoir—it's so interesting!)  I’m excited and will check in with my progress here.  In the meantime...recommendations?

1/8/13

Reflection on 2012 Resolutions (I can buy clothes again!!!)


I cannot get over how quickly the year went by.  Here are a few final reflections...

Resolution #1: Live and Let Live  

This is a great motto to keep in your back pocket.  It says to an in-control perfectionist Virgo like me: “Hey, not everything or everyone is in your power.  Live your life.  Let others live theirs.  Be happy.”  This works for me.  Focusing on this all year has been freeing because it has allowed me to be more laidback during a season of life where being laidback is a definite asset.

Resolution #2: The Great American Apparel Fast

The home: (If you recall, I extended this fast to home goods as well.) I did buy two pieces of art at the Wine to Water auction. The money I spent went directly to The Adventure Project, so I am cutting myself some slack here.  Jake gave me an amazing portrait of Sintayehu for my birthday.  He commissioned our beautiful artist friend to paint it and I love it. I didn’t buy an espresso machine or a bathroom rug, even though I really wanted to.  We have been broiling toast in the oven because I didn't want to buy a toaster.  (This works surprising well; I probably won't be buying a toaster.)  I have been wanting to decorate the wall going up the stairwell with photos, but kept myself from purchasing new frames.  We had a garage sale in June and got rid of lots of stuff.  The "home" part of the fast surprised me.  I love the idea of living into your space and I am addicted to design blogs, and yet this wasn't as challenging as the clothing fast.  I would consider it an overall success.  Why?  Because it's amazing to give yourself the time to realize what you really need and surprise yourself at what you can live without.  (Note: On January 2nd I went out and bought brand new dish towels.  I have yet to purchase a bathmat.)

Clothing:  Oh goodness.  I have a lot to say about this, but will try to hit the highlights.  I did not do this perfectly.  I added seven new items of clothing to my closet in 2012.  (A pair of shoes in March from Salvation Army, three moment-of-weakness items in April at Marshalls, two items from Target in June and a pair of shoes in July.) I was given things left and right by friends and family members who either a) felt sorry for me or b) were trying to purge their own cluttered closet.  I kept some of those things and others I took to Goodwill.  I re-purposed a few items hanging in the back of my closet (a long, printed skirt became a cute summer dress; a maternity dress became a fun, flirty cocktail dress; I sewed a bird on a dress my sister-in-law Emily handed down) and I got rid of LOADS of clothes at our garage sale.  The average American purchases 64 items of clothing each year, so relatively speaking, I did okay.

I read Overdressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion (I highly recommend) and got to interview the author for an article I wrote on the subject.  Speaking with author Elizabeth Cline and learning about the under-belly of "fast fashion" was truly fascinating.  I really think that just as we've embraced the Slow Food Movement, our society might start looking at other ways to be more conscientious consumers.  Perhaps this will be reflected in not just the food we buy, but the clothing we buy, the buildings we design, and so on.  One can hope.  I think we'll be hearing more about fast fashion and I believe that steps will be made to become more responsible consumers of textile.  In fact, H&M is launching a clothing recycling program in February that you can read about here.

I fell in love with this blog and caught the refashioning bug.  I improved my sewing skills and will continue to look for ways to refresh old clothes to fit my style.  I recently registered for an online class on sewing and refashioning.

I will re-enter the marketplace changed.  Though I am still considering ways in which to dress my family of five responsibly, when dressing myself, I will stick to the following:

1.  Shop thrift stores.  Not only will you find more unique items in thrift stores, but by purchasing used clothing, you are not contributing to the demand for fast fashion.  For instance, if fewer people are buying brand new $20 skinny jeans, then less cheaply made skinny jeans will be produced and less resources will be used.  I love "the find" experience of shopping thrift and, of course, the savings in cash.

2.  When purchasing something new, make sure the quality is high.  For instance, in the future I want to spend a bit more money in order to find items made out of high-quality, natural fibers like leather, cotton, and wool.  I will buy fewer items and instead purchase higher quality.  In doing so, I think my clothing budget will stay about the same.  This also helps determine needs versus wants.  If I'm going to spend a couple of hundred of dollars, say, on a pair of winter boots, I am going to be very sure that I actually need them and love them.  Rather than mindlessly and perhaps impulsively spending $12 on a pair of flats at Target, I want to really consider what I want to have to choose from each day as I open the closet.

3.  Tailor clothes to fit correctly.  I love books about Paris and the French in general and something that I've read over and over again is how the French purchase clothing and have it fitted to their body.  Because the fit is perfect, the look is polished.  I would like to be able to tailor my own clothing, but will also be more willing to pay for this to be done.  This is part of taking care of the clothes in your closet and making them last.

I don't expect to do this perfectly, but I do have a better sense of what my style is and the kind of clothes I want to see when I wake up and open my closet door each morning.  There is no doubt that this has been a fascinating year-long experiment.

In case you are wondering, it's January 8th and I have not actually purchased anything new.  Are you disappointed?  Jake bought me a really cute new sweater for Christmas (purchased at a local boutique called Mint Green) and my sister-in-law Tesi showed up a few days before Christmas with a pair of new brown boots, so I have been wearing a few new items.  However, after a year of not buying clothes, I can't really think of anything I want or need.  It feels a little anti-climatic, actually.  Though I have never considered myself a "shopaholic" or a "fashionista," the hunch that I had over a year ago that I was consuming more than my fair share of resources turned out to be true and my hope for a simpler existence and a "less is more" attitude has settled in.  I am more than satisfied.


 (Image found here.)


1/5/13

Holiday Re-Cap: Part IV

So after Christmas and Eli's birthday, Jake and I decided to pack up the van and take the kids north for what became something of an Upper Mississippi family, friend and amusement tour.  Our ten-year anniversary was on the 28th...and we actually spent it with our three kids and my aunt and uncle!  By necessity, we even slept in separate bedrooms!  I know...so romantic.  We'll make up for it over spring break, I promise!  My sweet aunt and uncle treated us to a lovely few days of great food and conversation.  And pie.  The pie was amazing.  It was great to be there.  I took barely any photos of this vacation, but I do have one from our wedding day ten years ago!!


After the visit with family, we headed to the Wisconsin Dells for two and a half days.  The kids loved the indoor water and amusement parks and had an absolute blast.  I am not really a very fun mom; things like this usually make me hyperventilate.  However, the parks were small and seeing the kids have so much fun was great.



After the Dells we headed to Minnesota to ring in the New Year with one of my best friends and her family.  We weren't there for long, but oh my goodness, the time together filled my soul.  You know what it's like with old friends—it's just special.  It was a wonderful way to celebrate the end of a nice, beautifully uneventful year and welcome a new one with great hopes of love, health and adventure!
Me and my super awesome God-daughter on NYE!

1/4/13

Holiday Re-cap: Part III


Two days after Christmas, our Elihu turned 6!  That this child is 6 absolutely floors me.  We celebrated him with a birthday morning "Pastry Party" at our house.  It was a joyous occasion for a funny, loving, generous, sweet and spicy guy.  I am still working on his birthday poem, but will share it here when it is finished.  This child challenges me and delights me time and time again.  I am blessed to be his mama.


Eli legitimately loves to help out in the kitchen.  We baked and decorated his cake the night before his birthday.  I think it turned out great!  (I bought the mix, the frosting and the candies...please don't be too impressed!)




The pastries were wonderful...Jake made biscuits, scones, popovers, and chocolate croissants.  Lucky for me and all of those he loves, over the last couple of years Jake's creative outlet has had a lot to do with butter and flour. 
Several weeks ago I traced Eli on some easel paper.  He colored it in and we hung it on the door for a game of "Pin the Mustache on the Birthday Boy."  Very fun. 
We rounded out the day with pizza and a few games at Happy Joes.  Just wait...the holiday fun continues...

1/3/13

Holiday Re-Cap: Part II

Christmas day was ridiculously joyful.  The kids are so little and were so excited and so enamored by the magic of it all.  It's a beautiful thing.  I can promise you that Jake and I, with coffee cup in one hand and recording device in the other, were soaking up every moment of that small miracle.  We opened gifts from Santa and one another, ate waffles and played with new toys until just after noon when we finally got dressed and went to our family Christmas at Camp Abe Lincoln for more joy and love and generosity.


This made me laugh: Eli took this book from our bookshelf and wrapped it up for Oliver, his brother who loves to read.
Harry Potter legos!

A new art set!
Look at these faces!  Papa Frank is extraordinarily generous and the boys were shocked by his gifts to them.  To say they were excited is an understatement.  Unwrapping those packages was a precious moment of innocence and joy.  We are so grateful for our families.  Not only are they ridiculously generous, but they are so supportive and kind and smart and interesting and fun and funny.  So, so grateful.



Don't get me wrong.  Sintayehu appreciated her gifts, but she also found this box to be kind of fabulous.

1/2/13

Holiday Re-Cap: Part I

I hope your holidays were wonderful!  I promise you that we packed in many, many good times...several of which I can't wait to tell you about!  

We began our family's Christmas/Birthday/Anniversary/New Year extravaganza over a week ago in Tipton on Christmas Eve day.  We spent the day at my grandmother/aunt/cousin's house where we ate great food and had a relaxing afternoon catching up with family.  (I didn't take a single photo.  Boo.)  We then went to mass at St. Mary's and somehow Jake and I ended up singing in the choir!  I should say that Jake OR I sang in the choir—Sintayehu cried (loudly) every time one of us left her, so we had to take turns hopping up onto the risers.  :-)  After mass we went to my mom and John's for their lovely Christmas Eve meal.  There's always music after dinner and it's truly delightful.  This year the boys performed piano pieces and made me cry.  They were so sweet in their suits.  Sigh...

Eli played "Angels We Have Heard On High." I cannot tell you how sweet this was.  That's my mom crying in the background.
Oliver performed "Up on the Housetop."  He is a very serious performer.  :-)
My mom and her good friend Moira played piano and violin.  Jake and I *might* have followed with a guitar/ukulele interpretation of "Silver Bells."  It *might* have been a little poppy and a little country and a little amazing.  We *might* have been told by a certain 8-year-old not to take offense, but the song was "a little long and a little shrill."  Perhaps we'll keep our day jobs. 
Sintayehu gave an impromptu performance of "Jingle Bells" with our talented family friend Dan.  (At this point the kids were in their new pjs for the ride home.)
Cookies, carrots, milk, notes for Santa and to bed!